5) No Talking on the Phone with
Boys:- In Islam its forbidden for
non-related guys and girls to be
alone together because there is
the chance for physical zina,
vocal zina, and zina of the eyes.
That means, with no one there
to watch you guys except that
boogery shaitaan, then you
might be tempted to actually DO
something, or say gross things,
or just stare at each other all
lustily. With that in mind, it’s
also a safe bet to assume that
talking on the phone with non-
Mahram guys is a no-no too.
Why? Because unless you ’ve
both got it on speaker-phone
and you ’re chaperoned by a
responsible person, then you’re
still kind of "alone" with him.
The people in your house can ’t
hear what he’s saying to you,
and his family can’t hear what
you’re saying to him. There’s a
chance for some bad stuff then,
so just avoid it. Not to mention,
having some dude saying things
into your ear that no one else
can hear would be gross in real
life, why is it okay for him to
talk into your ear via the
telephone? For the most part it’s
just too intimate.
6) Be Disaffected:- What does
that mean? Disaffected means
un-affect-able. That means that
nothing a dude can say can hit
your nerves, make you blush, or
get a reaction out of you. It also
means that you are uninterested
in what they do as well. Imagine
yourself being in an airplane
looking down on the scenery
below. You ’re a little interested
in what’s going on down there,
and it may look really nice, but
you know that to get to the
scenery you have to jump off
the plane. Like the scenery miles
below you, the guy may look
really nice, but you know that to
get him you have to jump off
the plane ...errr...commit
spiritual suicide, and though the
fall may be fun, you will
eventually hit the ground 600
meters below and go -splat – on
Judgment Day. Maybe even
sooner.
Short of becoming an ice-
princess, being disaffected
involves putting up a mental
wall between you and all of
male-kind. They don ’t know
your thoughts and you don’t
care for theirs. You can interact
with guys at school within the
bounds of Islam, but always
maintain a formal distance.
Don ’t ask a guy how his infected
toe is doing. Don’t give him a
hug when he looks down. Don’t
offer to help him with his
homework. Don ’t go out of your
way to remind him that you
exist, and that you ’re not half
bad looking. Even if you don’t
feel like behaving, make
yourself behave anyway, your
afterlife is important enough to
discipline yourself for.
The safest philosophy when
dealing with guys is
remembering this "He ’s not
what I want, so why should I do
anything to make him
interested in me? That ’ll just
make for a painfully awkward
situation and it ’s not worth the
sin anyhow."
Remember that you’re always
being watched! Would you act
all giggly and stupid with boys if
the Prophet Muhammad (peace
and blessings be upon him)
could see you? No, right?
Because you ’d feel like an
ungrateful idiot for disregarding
the religion that Prophet
Muhammad (peace and
blessings be upon him) took so
much pain for just to deliver to
you. Well, imagine how
ungrateful it is to act like a
supreme idiot when Allah can
see you all the time, and it ’s
really stupid to disregard the
religion that Allah prescribed,
the favors He ’s bestowed upon
you. How dumb is it to take the
eyes that Allah gave you and do
things with them that He told
you not to? (like goggle at
boys?) How much stupider is it
that He can see you doing this,
and you know it!
7) You have no secrets:- Not
because Big Brother (whoever
that is …) is watching you, but
because every single thing you
ever did will become public
domain on the Day of Judgment,
and you ’ll be brought to trial to
defend what you did. Just don’t
do anything that you wouldn’t
want your parents, your
siblings, your teachers, your
friends, and the whole world to
know about, ok?
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